Craig DeLuz

Writer, Actor, Public Speaker, Media Personality
Posts Tagged ‘Parents and Family’

The Great Education Debate- Funny but true! (Video)

One of the things I like about british humor is how “in your face” they can be when it comes to pointing out stupidity.

This video aptly demonstrates just how out of touch Educarats (Education Bureaucrats) are when it comes to understanding and meeting the educational needs of our children.

Study says behavioral problems linked to time spent in daycare

I have always wondered how a parent could lead themselves to believe that they could so easily be replaced by a minimum wage, daycare worker. Well now there is a study that supports the fact that nobody can do a better job of raising children than can their parents.

MSN is reporting:

The findings come from the largest long-term study of child care and development conducted in the United States. The 1,364 children in the analysis, had been tracked since birth as part of a study by the National Institutes of Health. The study was aimed at resolving disputes over whether daycare is harmful has found that subtle effects on behavior and vocabulary can last until fifth or sixth grade.

There were no differences in math, reading or other skills.

And the more time children spent in daycare centers before kindergarten, the more likely their sixth grade teachers were to report such problem behaviors as “gets in many fights,” ”disobedient at school,” and “argues a lot.”

Now this is not to say that the effects of being in daycare don’t last beyond the sixth grade. Keep in mind that this is an ongoing study. And the subjects have yet to reach high school or junior high.

The researchers also go on to state that the most important factor in how these children progressed was the quality of parenting they received.

Griffin said attention from parents is far more important to how a child turns out than day care or schooling.

As a former classroom teacher and the husband of a former teacher’s aide, I can unequivocally tell you that this is the truth. Children who’s parents are fully engaged in their lives prove to be more confident, more obedient, more respectful of authority and less likely influenced by peer pressure.

But I also love how they go out of their way to make parents feel better who put their children in daycare with statements like:

…these effects were very subtle, said Dr. James Griffin, who oversaw the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development study. The researchers said the increase in vocabulary and problem behaviors was small…

or

If you went into one of these classrooms, you wouldn’t be able to say ’this child, this child, and this child attended center-based care

I can also tell you without a doubt that these statements are false; at least to those of us who did not put our children in daycare. There is no substitute for a child having his/her parents active and engaged in his/her life. And I don’t know how parents can do that if their children are in daycare from 7 a.m. to 7 p.m., five days a week.

I am not saying that there aren’t situations where parents don’t have a choice. But all too often they do. How many parents do you know that drive two expensive, brand new cars and live in a big house that claim to have no other choice but to put their children in daycare? I believe that it is a question of priorities.

When my kids were born, my wife Sobna chose to stay home with them. Not because we were well off, but because being there for our children was a priority for us. Then, when they went to pre-school, she went to work as a teacher at their pre-school. And when they went on to elementary school, she would also make the transition to becoming a teacher’s aide there. And now that they are both at the middle school age, Sobna has once again become a stay at home mom. And once again, not that we are wealthy or even well off. But our children; not our stuff are the priority for us.

So, as a result, we drive older vehicles and live in a small house. And that is fine by us, because we don’t see it as missing out on anything. We see it as an investment in the most valuable treasure we will have… our children!

Study shows that one third of American kids are out of control

According to a recent study, about one third of parents polled don’t believe their method of disciplining their children is working. The most commonly used method of disciple was putting the child in timeout (45%) and the least common was spanking (8%). And they wonder why their children are out of control? As the Bible says, “Spare the rod, spoil the child.”

Reuters reports:

About one in three parents in the United States and Canada do not think their methods of disciplining their children work well, according to a U.S. study.

Dr. Shari Barkin, chief of general pediatrics at Tennessee’s Monroe Carell Jr. Children’s Hospital at Vanderbilt found 31 percent of about 5,000 parents surveyed said they “never” or “sometimes” perceived their methods to be effective.

Many of those reported turning into their own parents when it came to discipline, with 38 percent using the same methods their own parents used on them as children.
“It was surprising to see how many parents feel that disciplining their children is ineffective,” Barkin said in a telephone interview.

“Many are using the same techniques their parents used on them but don’t think they really work.”

The study, based on a survey of parents through community based doctors in 32 U.S. states, Puerto Rico and Canada, found the most common form of discipline was using time-outs, with 45 percent of parents using this method.

It found 41.5 percent of parents removed privileges, while 13 percent reported yelling at their children, and 8.5 percent reported the use of spanking “often or always.”

“But we strongly suspect that both yelling and spanking might be underreported,” said Barkin, whose study is published in the January issue of the journal Clinical Pediatrics.

“We know when parents perceive their methods are not working. As a third reported, then emotions can quickly escalate.”

She said by the time children reached the six to 11-year-old age range, parents were about 25 percent less likely to report using time-outs and spanking as they were with younger children.

When children reached school age, parents reported a heavier use of taking away privileges and yelling.

But even in the older age range, perception that the discipline might not be working persisted.

“Disciplining is something we do daily as parents but if this many parents think it is ineffective, it highlights the need to discuss other way to teach children how to resolve conflicts,” she said.

Truth be told, more than 1/3 of all children are out of control. I would that at second 1/3 of parents are ineffective at disciplining their children, but won’t admit it.

I have always said that from birth until the age of three, either parents are training their children or the children are raising their parents. Either way at age three, someone has been trained. Unfortunately in today’s world, it’s usually the parents.